September marks Suicide Awareness Month, with World Suicide Prevention Day celebrated on September 10, a time to shed light on the devastating impact of suicide and dispel the many harmful myths that surround it.
In South Africa, suicide is a major public health concern, with the country having one of the highest suicide rates on the African continent.
Yet, misconceptions about suicide continue to persist, hindering efforts to provide support and prevent these tragic losses of life.
One of the most pervasive myths is that suicide is an impulsive act, driven solely by momentary stress or hardship.
However, research shows that the majority of people who die by suicide have grappled with suicidal thoughts for some time and often struggle with underlying mental health conditions.
Contrary to the belief that suicide only affects the "weak" or "selfish", it is in fact a complex issue that can impact anyone, regardless of their background or social status.
Another harmful myth is that talking about suicide will somehow encourage it. In reality, open and compassionate dialogue is crucial for connecting those in distress with the help they need.
Many suicidal individuals are desperately seeking a way to ease their pain and simply want their cries for help to be heard and taken seriously.
As we observe Suicide Awareness Month, it is vital that we confront these dangerous myths head-on and promote a deeper understanding of the realities surrounding suicide in South Africa.
Only then can we begin to destigmatise the issue, provide meaningful support to those struggling, and work towards a future where no life is lost to this preventable tragedy.
In a recent discussion, Megan Gonsalves, the crisis line and marketing manager at Netcare Akeso, tackled some common myths surrounding suicide. Her insights shed light on the importance of open conversations and understanding the signs of distress.
Myth 1: Talking about suicide will encourage suicidal attempts
Gonsalves emphasised that discussing suicide can actually help reduce suicidal thoughts.
“Talking about these difficult topics increases the likelihood of someone seeking help,” she explained. Conversations about suicide can provide alternative perspectives for those struggling to see beyond their immediate pain.
She also noted that simply asking someone if they are considering suicide can open a conversation that might otherwise remain unspoken. This simple act can be a crucial step toward getting help.
Myth 2: Suicides happen without warning
Contrary to popular belief, Gonsalves pointed out that many individuals do share their thoughts before attempting suicide.
“Some studies have found that almost 50% of people tell someone about their suicidal thoughts or behaviours,” she said.
These communications may not always be direct; they can manifest through subtle comments or non-verbal cues.
She highlighted several warning signs to watch for, including:
- Statements like “I wish I were dead” or preoccupation with death.
- Access to means for suicide or engaging in risky behaviours.
- Withdrawal from social activities.
- Feelings of hopelessness or helplessness.
- Changes in routine, such as sleep patterns.
- Previous suicide attempts or trauma experiences.
Myth 3: Once a person is intent on suicide, you cannot stop them
Gonsalves reassured that while suicide can be unpredictable, it is often preventable.
“A person thinking about suicide is usually in extreme emotional pain,” she said. Addressing these feelings and encouraging support can be lifesaving.
Myth 4: People who threaten suicide are seeking attention
Gonsalves stressed the importance of taking any talk of suicide seriously. “Any threat should be taken seriously,” she stated.
For some, discussing their feelings can be a way of asking for help. It’s essential to approach these conversations with kindness and sensitivity, avoiding judgement, and asking direct questions to understand the risks involved.
Gonsalves’s insights remind us that talking about suicide can foster understanding and potentially save lives. By dispelling these myths, we can create a more supportive environment for those in need.
“Connecting with professional mental health or medical support should be encouraged and facilitated if necessary.”